In early October 2025, social media posts claimed Alisa Kasmer, cousin of White House Deputy Chief of Staff Stephen Miller, publicly disowned him and said he had "become the face of evil."
Kasmer's alleged comments about Miller originated from a post she shared on Facebook, according to multiple versions of the claim.
For example, one Facebook post (archived) shared by Occupy Democrats on Oct. 5 read, in part:
BREAKING: Stephen Miller's cousin who used to babysit him goes MEGA-VIRAL with a brutal takedown of the fascist Trump adviser, calling him the "face of evil" before really tearing into him.These words are as fiery as they are heartbreaking…"Many of you know who my cousin is. Being public about it is something I've struggled with. I live with real fear about what posting something this raw might bring," Alisa Kasmer wrote in a July Facebook post that surged recently into the spotlight amidst Miller's escalating authoritarian horrors."I am living with the deep pain of watching someone I once loved become the face of evil. But I know that staying silent only deepens the ache. There's so much more I could say, and maybe someday I will. It's a long read. I'm wordy AF," she continued. Kasmer stated that the ICE raids have given her horrendous panic attacks but she can't remain silent.
The claim circulated elsewhere on Facebook and on X (archived here, here and here). Multiple Snopes readers also emailed us and searched our website to verify the post's authenticity and determine whether Miller's cousin really wrote it.
We verified that Kasmer shared the Facebook post (archived) in question on July 17, 2025,
Kasmer's post about Miller included photos of the two together as both children and adults. The images appeared to be authentic, with no visible signs of alteration or editing apart from some blurred faces.
In her post, Kasmer criticized the Trump administration's immigration policy and confronted Miller's role in shaping it, writing that she was "living with the deep pain of watching someone I once loved become the face of evil." We've included excerpts of Kasmer's post below:
Many of you know who my cousin is. Being public about it is something I've struggled with. I live with real fear about what posting something this raw might bring. I am living with the deep pain of watching someone I once loved become the face of evil. But I know that staying silent only deepens the ache. There's so much more I could say, and maybe someday I will. It's a long read. I'm wordy AF.
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I think many of us are grieving. Grieving a world that feels more cruel than kind. A future that feels further away each day. I grieve for the country we could be… one with unmatched wealth, intelligence, and potential. A nation with resources to ensure everyone lives with dignity, equity, health, and safety. A nation with enough technological and medical advancements to be something truly extraordinary. But instead, those resources and that wealth are being hoarded by a few, poisoned by ego and power, devoid of empathy, starving the rest. Our privilege has been wasted on cruelty and torture, targeting the very people who make our communities whole—the hardest workers, the most vulnerable, the ones who carry this country on their backs. A society is only as strong as its most vulnerable, and ours are at their weakest. This is not by accident, but by design. Your design, Stephen.Then there's the grief I carry inside my own family - the most personal and painful. I grieve a cousin I once loved. A boy I watched grow up, babysat, and shared a childhood with. The kid I made fun of for his obsession with Michael Jackson and Ghostbusters. The awkward, funny, needy middle child who loved to chase attention, yet was always the sweetest with the littlest family members. A kid that reminded me of Alex P. Keaton, young, conservative, maybe misguided, but lovable and harmless. Or so I thought. But I was so deeply wrong. And the realization that I didn't know you at all? It guts me. I grieve what you've become, Stephen. And I grieve what I've lost because of it. I grieve your children I will never meet. I grieve the future family you've stolen from me by choosing a path so filled with cruelty that I cannot, and will not, be a part of it. I will never knowingly let evil into my life, no matter whose blood it carries—including my own.[…]People always ask me, "What happened to you?" I don't have a clear answer. I can only surmise it was a perfect storm of ego, fear, hate, and ambition—all of it mangled into something cruel and hollow, masquerading as strength. You were born into privilege, into safety, and wealth. And somehow, you've weaponized all of it. I didn't see the descent until it was too late. And now I'm left with guilt and shame. Could I have done something? My sister recently asked me, "If social media had existed back then—if we had seen the horrific videos of you in high school, would we have spoken up? Would we have intervened?" Yes, we absolutely would have. I grieve that we never got that chance.And here's where it hurts even more: we were raised Jewish.Stephen, you and I both know what that means. We were raised with stories of survival. We learned about pogroms, ghettos, the Holocaust—not just as history, but as part of our identity. We carry the trauma of generations who were hunted, hated, expelled, murdered, just for existing. We were taught to remember. We celebrated holidays each year with the reminder to stand up and say "never again." But what you are doing breaks that sacred promise. It breaks everything we were taught. How can you do to others what has been done to us? How can you wake up each day and repeat the cruelty that our people barely escaped from? We were taught to never forget where we came from. But you seem to have erased it all. And it devastates me. To be this close to the cruelty, through you, has left me ashamed and shattered.
Kasmer's full post is available to view below:
We confirmed the familial link between Miller and Kasmer through an obituary and corroborating public records.
A 2015 obituary (archived) for Freya Miller, identified as Stephen Miller's grandmother in a family tree (archived) publicly available on the genealogy website Geneastar, listed two of her three children as Suzanne (born in 1944) and Michael (born in 1950). The obituary also mentioned two grandchildren named Alisa and Stephen.
To verify the connection, we cross-referenced public records using an online service called BeenVerified, which listed Suzanne Kasmer (born in 1944) a "possible relative" for Alisa Kasmer. Based on the matching name and birth year from the obituary for Freya Miller, we deduced that Suzanne is Alisa's mother.
The family tree on Geneastar also listed Stephen Miller's father as Michael Miller, born in 1950, matching the obituary's details.
Because Suzanne and Michael are siblings, and their respective children are Alisa and Stephen, we determined that Alisa Kasmer and Stephen Miller are first cousins.
Snopes also reached out to Kasmer for additional details confirming her familial relationship with Miller and will update this story if we receive a response.
Kasmer isn't the only family member who has publicly criticized Miller. In 2018, during the first Trump administration, Miller's uncle David S. Glosser condemned him as an "immigration hypocrite," claiming he had "become the architect of immigration policies that repudiate the very foundation of our family's life in this country." As Snopes previously reported, Miller is a descendant of Jewish immigrants who fled persecution in Eastern Europe.
In sum, Kasmer's Facebook criticizing Miller was authentic and we were able to determine that she and Stephen Miller are cousins.